1. Dedilan was yesterday!
What a twist! Agree, no one should ripen or overtime due to the forgetfulness of the colleague or his inability to plan timing. Such behavior is not entirely tactful and not at all professionally, but still very angry.
When working in a bundle with another person, it is important to think not only about yourself, but also about a partner colleague. It is likely that he has other tasks awaiting fulfillment. That's just because of someone's preoccupacy, he is now forced to throw them and then finish at the last moment.
2. I will try, but I do not promise anything
At work, everyone has certain responsibilities that are advisable to perform within the prescribed period. Most likely, these are regularly repeated tasks that are known in advance. And the worker either makes them or not. There is no third.
Imagine this situation: at the interview, the candidate asks for the future leader about the amount of the expected wages. And that's what he answers him: "Pay you forty thousand every month? Well, I will try, but I do not promise anything. " What kind of stability and confidence in tomorrow's day can go.
3. I did not touch anything, it broke itself!
"It broke itself" - the worst way to recognize the guilt for anything. As practice shows, something breaks itself in extremely rare cases. Most often someone still helps breakage. Justify and refer to unknown destructive forces in such a situation extremely ridiculous.
If you are really to blame, it is better to be honestly admit and apologize. You can, for example, to say: "Yes, guys, I broke. Sorry, now I will correct everything. " It is advisable to do it yourself and immediately, and not sit down in the corner to the last, hoping that no one will notice.
4. I did not expect it to entrust you!
The colleague shared his small achievement and clearly expected to receive a small praise in response, and not a derogatory tirade. It would be much more appropriate to rejoice at the success of an employee, not trying to find some kind of catch in the situation. You could say "Congratulations!" or "Wow, great!" Either just silent, if it really is hurt.
5. I heard you
The impression of the phrase "I heard you" extremely contradictory. Nothing particularly bad in it - the interlocutor understood what he was told, and even answered. But the conversation initiator clearly calculated to obtain a more revive reaction, and not just an indifferent confirmation that his opponent had no hearing problems. There is a feeling that the interlocutor simply wants to get rid of conversation quickly.
6. I do not pay for it!
Beautiful phrase to inspire from an unpleasant or optional additional load, which some people for some reason want to pose around them all the time. She also talks a lot about a person who pronounces it.
Most often, this is such a small character who demonstratively proves to the whole world that his pants at work he sends no in vain. And for any nonsense, not concerning his direct duties, is not distracted. And in general, he appreciates his precious time, not the fact that the compassion colleagues around is around for free.
7. Send a brief, we will beat
Oh, these linguistic mutants. Sometimes without borrowing, it's really not to do without borrowing, but when working communication turns into a simultaneous translation, it is a reason to think about it. Or use the dictionary.
8. I did everything that could! I do not like? Find the one who will do better
There are no indispensable staff. Maybe in some companies and it will turn out to be checked such a focus painlessly, but the chance is small. Most likely, management listens to the Council of a short-sighted employee and simply find someone better for his position.
9. I spoke! So I knew! I told you!
No matter how great the temptation pronunciation this sacramental phrase aloud, hold on. A person who complains about difficulties or failures does not want to hear in response a unfulfilled celebration. If you think about it, it is right that everything will be bad - extremely dubious pleasure.
10. Calm down! Relax! Do not mind it!
For a person who has fallen into an unpleasant, this phrase and all its derivatives - like a red rag for a bull. One hundred percent rage is provided.
11. I am ashamed not to know!
Do not know something is not ashamed, I am ashamed not to want to learn anything. Even the coolest professional may not understand something. Blank for ignorance - the last thing. It is better to just take and prompt, especially if the help has already been asked.
12. I do not care how you will do it
No comments. Mutual support and help each other at work? No, there is no such.
13. You will be in my place - you will decide, but for now I am praying
Favorite phrase of arrogant leaders or people with little influence. Is it worth reminding that few people love are arrogant? More efficiently will manage the power to someone in good, but not to harm or allegedly put in place.
14. Nothing personal, just business
This phrase sounds tight and inappropriate from all, except Al Capone. So if you are not the leader of Chicago or some more mafia, then the dedication is better to influence. In a situation where you need to do profitable for yourself, but bad for others, it is primarily to remain a person, and not to throw like phrases, trying to justify your immoral behavior.
15. Your humble servant wishes to all good day.
The time of servants and the Lords have long passed, but for some reason stupid speech turnover remained. Science was not able to find out why "your humble servant", "good day", "takes place" and other monstrous stamps are still used in speech.
And what phrases colleagues annoy you? Share in the comments.
We simply lack social mobility in order to accurately understand all the impudent meanings of the above. We are too focused on your behavior and do not notice the action rendered on the interlocutor. But not to use the power of the word fully - it is simply stupid.
Here, for example, the 10 most common phrases in any society that the smart person will never say. Start watching the speech: the efforts are really worth.
"I could"
The very beginning of the phrase tells the interlocutor that you are not going to do something.
You can use such a wording in an extremely limited number of cases:
- if you are threatening;
- if you feel immeasurably above vizabi;
- if you just do not think when you say.
"Not bad idea"
Just perfectly sounds - "good idea." What does it mean at all? Did you like it? You did not like and you just do not want to offend? Do not be afraid to be more categorical in your judgments. It is a much better solution than to leave the interlocutor in bewilderment.
"Wow, yes you lost weight!"
Excellent compliment, in fact. Especially pleasant will hear this to a person who has always shy his excess weight. An unnecessary reminder of the problems is the best way to start a detractor. Try not to make this error.
"You're straight rapid!"
Try to say a similar phrase girl. It will be better to turn this focus on the phone: even so you can be sure that there are considerable troubles for yourself.
No one likes an excessive mention of non-faithful years.
"But"
One thing is enough to turn the entire meaning of all that has been said earlier.
"We are the largest company in this area, we are able to any order, but, That is what we do not be able. "
Looks like a miserable excuse. Do not detain your dignity with such petty tricks.
"You look tired"
Tired people are incredibly attractive - they have swelling eyes, confused hair, problems with a concentration and they, of course, are very happy to see everyone around. The statement of the fact "look tired" has not helped anyone.
One such phrase is able to spoil the mood for a whole day - that's why it is worth removing it from your lexicon once and for all.
"Do not be offended, but ..."
Double denials still did not bring anyone.
Starting the proposal in this way, you already configure a person to self-defense.
All you say in the future will not have any point for the listener:
He will remember only the main promise.
Do not use this phrase, unless you want to consciously withdraw the interlocutor of myself.
"I can be mistaken, but ..."
Another way to reduce all subsequent words. Do not try to insure yourself of a possible mistake - no one will appreciate it. Doubt the loyalty of your judgment, but you think that you should express it? Shuff your words of all "saving" words and phrases. Confidence is that they remember people first.
"As you know, many people"
Who knows? And who are these most thousands of knowledgeable people? Build the phrase in this way - it means in advance to show your ignorance in the subject of the conversation.
The person who knows the material will not resort to so blurred formulations, designed only to distract the attention of the interlocutor.
"She was not worthy of you"
Of course, after all, your interlocutor does not know how to deal with people and problems with his own self-esteem makes it over time to choose a partner below the rank.
At least this is how this phrase sounds from the side.
The ideal option will not interfere in other people's relationship at all, but if it happened, then try, at least, avoid such clichés.
Meanwhile, smart people have long come up with some taboo-statement.
1 You were too good for him!
At first glance, one of those phrases that usually comfort a girlfriend, survived the gap with a partner. However, in fact, it is partly an insult to her taste and evidence of the inability to understand people: "Well, you chose yourself a guy, and how much time spent on him!"
What is better to say:
He lost a lot.
2 You look great for your age!
Why don't you say so:
Quite neutral, at first glance, the phrase turns in indulgent Consolation: "Compared to other old men you look even more or less."
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What is better to say:
Wow, you look just awesome!
3 I try, but I can't work!
Why don't you say so:
The phrase that is an excreted 10-year-old girl. An adult girl to absorb emotional approval for the fact that she did not reach the goal, not quite solid. It is better to either recognize the goal unattainable, or completely change tactics.
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What is better to say:
I try so much as possible.
4 I just achieved myself!
Why don't you say so:
From birth, people are surrounded by people who influence our formation and development. We, in turn, make conclusions and remove something of what is happening. But to depreciate the help of these people ugly.
What is better to say:
Thanks to my parents and support for loved ones, I could achieve this.
5 This is unfair!
Why don't you say so:
Life is not fair. You need to accept it. Complaining the slightest manifestations of injustice, you in the eyes of others become inexperienced and naive. Eradicate this phrase and replace it with a more constructive.
What is better to say:
For example, with an unfair, in your opinion, the decision of the boss can be correctly to ask him: "What led to such a decision? Is it possible to find out why you commissioned it not for me? "
6 Maybe I will say nonsense now, but ...
Why don't you say so:
Remember: This phrase configures in advance those around the fact that your opinion will not be completely competent. Such words are the most unsuccessful choice for entry.
What is better to say:
In this matter, I am not fully confident, it will be interesting to know your opinion.
7 I told!
Why don't you say so:
The phrase, which is always used only to indicate people on their mistakes, which none of us loves. In such a situation, it is better to pick up a person.
What is better to say:
Next time you do not allow such a mistake.
8 oh, I also had it!
Why don't you say so:
This phrase can be pronounced exclusively to the girlfriend, which has just delivered a couple of shoes to the store, which she did not fit at all. However, it should not say that if it shares a personal problem with you. After all, she wants to speak, and not to listen about how it was with you.
What is better to say:
Many are confronted with this, but you will definitely cope.
9 Well, you invent the problem in a flat place!
Why don't you say so:
You can not say that at least for the reason that you are not a measure of other people's problems.
What is better to say:
Very soon this problem will not be so important for you as now. Everything will be alright.
10 You do not love me!
Why don't you say so:
The corona phrase that can play a bad joke with you. Hearing your tear "You don't love me!" Once, a man, of course, rushes to passionately to assure you in the opposite, in the second - already cool ignores, well, and in the third one - it wonder: perhaps you are right ...
What is better to say:
I miss you.
We all said such things that were acquired to surround their meaning. The usual phrase, said for encouragement, can turn into a terrible hint - the whole thing is only in the mood of a person who can interpret every word in its own way. We simply lack social mobility in order to accurately understand all the impudent meanings of the above. We are too focused on your behavior and do not notice the actions rendered on the interlocutor - and not to use the power of the word to the fullest is simply stupid.
- I could
- Not bad idea
- Wow, yes you lost weight!
- You have straightened!
- but
- Look tired
- Do not be offended, but
- I can be wrong but
- As you know, many people
- She was not worthy of you
I could
The very beginning of the phrase tells the interlocutor that you are not going to do something. You can use such a wording in an extremely limited number of cases: if you are threatening if you feel immeasurably above vizabi and if you just do not think when you say.
Not bad idea
Just perfectly sounds - "good idea." What does it mean at all? Did you like it? You did not like and you just do not want to offend? Do not be afraid to be more categorical in your judgments. It is a much better solution than to leave the interlocutor in bewilderment.
Wow, yes you lost weight!
Excellent compliment, in fact. It will be especially pleasant to hear this to a person who has always shy his excess weight. An unnecessary reminder of the problems is the best way to start a detractor. Try not to make this error.
You have straightened!
Try to say a similar phrase girl. It will be better to turn this focus on the phone: even so you can be sure that there are considerable troubles for yourself. No one likes an excessive mention of non-faithful years.
but
This word is enough to turn the entire meaning of all the above earlier. "We are the largest company in this area, we are able to any order, however, that's what we are not able to do." Looks like a miserable excuse. Do not detain your dignity with such petty tricks.
Look tired
Tired people are incredibly attractive - they have swelling eyes, confused hair, problems with a concentration and they, of course, are very happy to see everyone around. The statement of the fact "look tired" has not helped anyone. One such phrase is able to spoil the mood for a whole day - that's why it is worth removing it from your lexicon once and for all.
Do not be offended, but
Double denials still did not bring anyone. Starting the proposal in this way, you already configure a person to self-defense. All you say in the future will not have any point for the listener: he will remember only the main promise. Do not use this phrase, unless you want to consciously withdraw the interlocutor of myself.
I can be wrong but
Another way to reduce all subsequent words. Do not try to insure yourself of a possible mistake - no one will appreciate it. Doubt the loyalty of your judgment, but you think that you should express it? Shuff your words of all "saving" words and phrases. Confidence is that they remember people first.
As you know, many people
Who knows? And who are these most thousands of knowledgeable people? Build the phrase in this way - it means in advance to show your ignorance in the subject of the conversation. The person who knows the material will not resort to so blurred formulations, designed only to distract the attention of the interlocutor.
She was not worthy of you
Of course, after all, your interlocutor does not know how to deal with people and problems with his own self-esteem makes it over time to choose a partner below the rank. At least this is how this phrase sounds from the side. The ideal option will not interfere in other people's relationship at all, but if it happened, then try, at least, avoid such clichés.
There are phrases that you just never stand at work.
These phrases have a special strength: they have inexplicable ability to put you in a bad light, even if your words are truth in the last instance.
And, worst, the word - not a sparrow, the return path after their pronunciation will not be.
Often it is just thin remarks that exhibit us incompetent and insecure, and bring the most damage.
Regarding how talented and what are your main merits, there are certain phrases that are forever change the opinion of you from other people, and at the same time they forever create a negative halo around you. These phrases are so charged with the negative that they are already able to destroy your career as soon as possible.
And how many of these phrases have you already heard in your office?
1. "It's dishonest"
Everyone knows that life is dishonest. Saying that something is dishonest, you, thereby show that you think that life should be honest, which, in turn, demonstrates you immature and naive man.
If you do not want to put yourself in a bad light, you always need to adhere to the facts, stay constructive and keep your own interpretation of events aside. For example, you can say: "I noticed that you were appointed Ann to a big project, which I was extremely expected. Could you tell me what influenced your decision? I would like to know why you decided that I was not the best choice for this place so that I could somehow improve my skills. "
2. "We always did so"
Technological changes occur so quickly that even the process charged half a year ago may be irrelevant today. Saying that something "always was done so" not only forces you to sound like a lazy and a fighter with change, but may cause your chief questions about why you are not trying to improve workflows. If you really always did some things in the same way, then there is always a way to make them even better.
3. "Without problems"
When anyone asks you about the service or thanks for something, and you answer him "without problems," you hint that their request could be a problem. This phrase causes people to think that they somehow loaded you.
You, in turn, should demonstrate to people that you are happy to engage in your work. Tell me something in the style "I was glad to help" or "I will be glad to help with it." This is just a thin face in the language, but it has a huge impact on people.
4. "I think ... / it may be a bad idea ... / We ask a stupid question ...".
These are too passive phrases constantly reduce your reliability in the eyes of other people. Even if these phrases accompany some wonderful idea surrounding that you lack confidence, which means people will not be able to be confident in you themselves.
Do not be your own terrible criticism. If you yourself are not confident in your own words, no one else will have confidence in them too. And, even if you really do not know something, say: "I do not have the right information now, but I will definitely clarify this question and let me know about it."
5. "It will take just a minute"
Saying this, you, thereby, will be understood your own skills and create the impression that you break through working tasks. Except when the task is to really take you only 60 seconds, do not hesitate to say that the work will not take much time, but voicate it in this form so that people do not think that the task can be completed earlier than you need time in reality.
6. "I will try"
Just like the word "I think," "I try" makes you think carefully, as if you are not enough confidence in your own ability to cope with the task. Take full responsibility for your capabilities. If you were asked to do something, agree to do this or offer an alternative, but never say that you try, as it will sound as if you won't try hard.
7. "He is lazy / noncompenetient / fool"
No benefit from the dismissive remarks in the direction of the colleague you definitely do not get. If your remark is accurate, then everything will be known about it, so it makes no sense once again pointing to obvious things. If your remark is not too accurate, then you risk and turn out to be a fool.
At any workplace will always be rude and incompetent people, and the likelihood is great that the rest of the colleagues will be about them the same opinion. If you do not have the opportunity to help them become better or dismiss them, then you will not achieve anything, speaking out loud about their shortcomings. Sounding the incompetence of your colleague from the side looks like an attempt to seem better in his background. Your rudeness will inevitably lead to the fact that the rest of the colleagues will be negatively thinking about you.
8. "This is not included in my duties."
This often sarcastic phrase causes you to sound as if you're going to perform only the laid minimum to get a salary, which will negatively affect the safety of your workplace.
If your boss asks you to do anything that is not part of the responsibilities of your position (unless, this request is morally and ethically acceptable), then the best solution will be made by enthusiasm. Then assign a meeting to your head, during which offer to discuss your role in the company and ask whether you should not update your personal responsibility list. Thus, you are with a huge chance to avoid your role to look too small. In addition, this version of the development of events will allow you and your boss to establish a long-term understanding of what you have to and should not do on your current position.
9. "This is not my mistake"
Blaming someone - almost always a bad idea. Be responsible. If you occupy any position - even the smallest - if something went wrong, take responsibility for this. If not, then offer a solution to the problem, explain what exactly happened. Adhere to the facts and allow your bosses and colleagues to decide who to accuse the situation.
At the very moment when you begin to blame someone else, the people around you begin to see a person who lacks the ability to take responsibility for their own actions. It makes people nervous even more. Some people will try not to work with you when they have such an opportunity, and others will hit the first and blame you, if something goes wrong.
10. "I can't"
"I can't" - this is the phrase cousin "This is not my mistake." People do not like to hear that you can't do something, because they believe that you just do not want to do this. Saying "I can not", you, thereby, say that you will not try to do everything possible so that work is done.
If you really can't do anything, as you lack the necessary skills, then you need to offer an alternative solution to this problem. Instead of talking about what you can't do, tell me what you can do.
For example, instead of talking: "I can't stay today later," tell me that you can come early tomorrow. Instead of "I can't make these calculations," say: "I don't know how to carry out such an analysis. We have anyone who could tell me how to do it right? ".
11. "I hate this work"
The last phrase, which no one wants to hear at work is a complaint of anyone about how much he hates his work. Voicing such a thought, you demonstrate that you are a negative person, which, in turn, reduces the group morality. The bosses quickly promote such group morality destroyers and know that they can always be replaced by more enthusiastic people who are now looking for work.
Summing up
It is worth only to remove these phrases from your vocabulary, as you immediately feel the benefits of this decision. The main problem of these phrases - they strive to jump from your tongue absolutely unnoticed, so you should catch yourself in such thoughts in time until you finally enacted the habit in full failure from their statement.
Dr. Travis Bradberry is the famous co-author of the bestseller "Emotional Intelligence 2.0" and the co-founder of Talentsmaer - a leading global company providing tests and training for the development of emotional intelligence serving more than 75 percent of the 500 companies included in the Fortune list. His best-selling book is translated into 25 languages \u200b\u200bof the world and is available in more than 150 countries. Dr. Bradberry published materials for Newsweek, Time, Businessweek, Fortune, Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The Harvard Business Review.
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