Sometimes we crave loneliness, but we just can't manage to be alone with our thoughts and feelings, and sometimes we need someone to be there, but he is not ...
Loneliness is considered a kind of awareness of oneself as useless, abandoned by a person. But for what reasons does a person who lives in the company of other people consider himself lonely and abandoned? Is that so? Let's try to figure it out with short quotes about the loneliness of great people.
Beautiful women are rarely alone, but they are often alone.
Henrik Jagodziński
Dreamers are lonely.
Erma Bombek
Loneliness is the wrong side of freedom.
Sergey Lukyanenko
Loneliness, how overpopulated you are!
Stanislav Jerzy Lec
The better the means of communication, the further the person is from the person.
Yalyu Kurek
The sage is least alone when he is alone.
Jonathan Swift
Solitude is a luxury for the rich.
Albert Camus
You are not alone in your loneliness.
Ashley Diamond
We make ourselves lonely.
Maurice Blanchot
Eagles fly alone, sheep graze in herds.
Philip Sidney
In every person there is a piece of loneliness that close people, earthly entertainment, pleasure or enjoyment will never fill. It just so happened since biblical times, namely from the moment when Adam and Eve were expelled from paradise, loneliness settled in the hearts of people. Maybe loneliness is that eternal longing for the times of being in paradise, but maybe not. Probably everyone should answer this question for himself. Well, quotes about loneliness will help with this.
Wise quotes about loneliness
We are often more alone among people than in the quiet of our rooms.
Henry David Thoreau
Alone, man is either a saint or a devil.
Robert Burton
Loneliness is a famous refrain of life. It is neither worse nor better than many other things. They just talk too much about him. A person is always alone or never!
Erich Maria Remarque
The most cruel loneliness is the loneliness of the heart.
Pierre Bouast
A person feels lonely when surrounded by cowards.
Albert Camus
Loneliness is sometimes the best society.
John Milton
A brooding soul tends to loneliness.
Omar Khayyam
The worst loneliness is not having true friends.
Robert Burton
Better to be alone than in bad company.
John Rae
I don't know anyone who doesn't feel lonely in one way or another.
Gabriel Garcia Marquez
As long as humanity exists, so much loneliness exists. More than half of humanity is afraid of him and cannot understand in any way why it sooner or later comes. But, as they say, you need to know the enemy by sight. So let's try to understand this topic with the help of sayings and quotes of great people.
About loneliness with meaning
Loneliness is a wonderful thing; but you need someone to tell you that loneliness is a wonderful thing.
Honore de Balzac
Being alone often makes a person feel less alone.
Johann Gottfried Herder
God is with us, so we are not alone.
Konstantin Kushner
I've never met a partner as outgoing as being alone.
Henry David Thoreau
The strongest people and the loneliest.
Henrik Ibsen
Loneliness is really a lousy thing for all its enormous benefits.
Arkady and Boris Strugatsky
I've always been the best company for myself.
Charles Bukowski
Loneliness only heightens the feeling of being unnecessary.
Ken Kesey
You must not confuse loneliness and solitude. Loneliness for me is a psychological, spiritual concept, while solitude is a physical one. The first dulls, the second calms.
Carlos Castaneda
The first thing loneliness prompts is to deal with yourself and your past.
August Strindberg
Many find positive moments in solitude. Indeed, loneliness can be viewed as an opportunity to be alone with yourself, to understand your own soul and to listen to your inner voice. Many psychologists believe that the time we spend alone is the most rewarding. If a person was always busy communicating with others, he would never have many wonderful thoughts and ideas. And besides, as one quote says, you can live alone if you are waiting for someone.
Sad statements about loneliness
Don't wait for someone else to take the first step. What can you lose besides your loneliness?
John Kehoe
How pleasant it is to lie motionless on the sofa and know that you are alone in the room! True happiness is impossible without loneliness.
Anton Chekhov
How good it is to be alone. But how good it is when there is someone to whom you can tell how good it is to be alone.
Ernest Hemingway
To be able to endure and enjoy loneliness is a great gift.
Bernard Show
Better to be alone than unhappy with someone.
Marilyn Monroe
I don't like being alone. I just don’t make extra acquaintances - so as not to be disappointed in people once again.
Haruki Murakami
Loneliness is when there is a telephone in the house and the alarm clock rings.
Faina Ranevskaya
Being alone does not mean that you are weak. This means that you are strong enough to wait for what you deserve.
Will Smith
It is scary to become unnecessary, not to be alone.
Tatiana Solovova
A foolish person seeks how to overcome loneliness, a wise person finds how to enjoy it.
Mikhail Mamchich
But, smart quotes about loneliness with meaning is one thing, but the real state when, even being among other people, you feel lonely is quite another. Being alone for too long has a negative effect on life expectancy. In terms of the degree of negative impact on life expectancy, loneliness is equated to smoking and alcohol. And sometimes only a good psychoanalyst can help. Well
My parents, mostly my dad, make me mad and nervous. He is very seriously ill and has become kind of stupid, he tries to talk to me, but I don't want to talk to him, because he always asks his stupid questions several times in a row, doesn't wash, drinks wine every day. Previously, he could yell at my mother or me, my mother almost died several times because of him.
I have no friends, my classmates think that I am a fool, because I dress differently and do not want to communicate with them (and they are not interesting to me). I understand that this is not so, they simply do not have money for such beautiful tights and skirts as I have, so they wear their school uniforms all week. Mom loves me very much, entertains me as best she can, I go to chess, do several sports.
I don't like kissing, hugging, a person who is very squeezed in his world, with whom it is difficult for ordinary people to communicate (my opinion). The surrounding teenagers and people are completely different. They often call names, swear, girls complain that the guy doesn't like them or they are not beautiful, they swear, the boys are some kind of aggressive, they also swear (well, not all of them, of course, there are a lot of good boys and girls in this world). All are very noisy. Teachers are forced to go to events, listen to how harmful it is to do this and that, to celebrate stupid holidays, to do what I don't like (singing, dancing, performing, playing football and similar games).
Mom takes offense at me and says that she spends so much energy on me, but I don't want to talk to her, kiss, hug and don't let her touch the site to me, shying away from her hands. I really like to read and draw, but I don't have enough time for this, it upsets me and makes me nervous, because my parents very often drag me along like a dog. I have a bad mood, everything inside is furious, boiling. I want to be alone, so that no one knows what I am doing, read a book, or listen to music, so that no one climbs and asks what and why I am doing this.
I very often lost consciousness, for example, when a person stood in a crowd, there was still very loud stupid children's music screaming, it was stuffy. There were about five such cases. As a child, my mother also often fainted. And I also have progressive myopia, so I hate all ball games, lately I have become afraid of a flying ball in general. This is how I live.
We are trying to overcome it, looking for something to fill the hole with, and we expect that one day someone very kind and fair will come and fix everything. It's a pity - but it won't come ...
I cry and cry, it hurts a lot. And there is no one around who would hug, listen and help with a kind word. I am completely alone. I do not like loneliness, but it, like my cross, destroys all relationships.
Every time the same thing - it was and disappeared. Gone. It just ended, and it’s not clear why ... Like some kind of stupid dream. How many times have I tried to establish my personal life! How many times I tried to be good, honest, faithful and obedient, so that he felt good! Why am I alone again? Can't no one answer?
I cry, and I feel so sorry for myself! I'm not guilty of anything, I just want love, family and happiness. But it still does not exist, it is farther and farther, and around me is unbearable emptiness.
Not Born Alone: \u200b\u200bTime To Get Rid Of Illusions
At the training System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, you can find the answer how to get rid of the feeling of loneliness, tracing where the roots of loneliness begin, how this feeling manifests itself.
We cannot live alone, even if we do not really love our neighbor, but we do not love loneliness even more. It drives us out into the street, to work, to a team, to create a family, to have children, to achieve success ... Just not to experience this terrible feeling, just to be needed.
We are born with a given program, a role that must be fulfilled. And not for myself, but for society. To do this, each of us has a set of properties and desires. Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology calls them vectors. A vector, as a given direction on the way, pushes us to fulfill a natural task, investing in us everything that should help in its implementation. And we cannot avoid our role, otherwise loneliness will not keep us waiting.
Love is action
Unfortunately, on the way to adulthood, someone loses some of their strength, desires and abilities due to inadequate upbringing, lack of parental love or severe stress. And he becomes unable to fully fulfill his mission. The emotional state is in decline, loved ones leave, there is no strength to cope with problems, but they all fall like a snowball.
We lose our bearings, get lost and become unhappy from our own uselessness and oppressive feeling of loneliness. We are trying to overcome it, looking for something to fill the hole with, and we expect that one day someone very kind and fair will come and fix everything. It's a pity - but it won't come. And the hope for a kind magician, who will fly in and turn life into a holiday, will turn into a vicious circle, where those who passively expect love and happiness will receive loneliness and despair. Until he understands that love is action. It cannot be touched and cannot be found, it can only be made with your own hands, given birth, given and only then received in return.
Who you are and what is your loneliness
Loneliness is bad. There should be children, family, home. How else? To marry for love, for that one, the only one. Or to marry that one is the goal and dream of the whole life of many. But if only it were that simple!
There are people among us for whom love and family are the highest values. And loneliness is even dangerous for them. These are the owners of two vectors, stunning in their properties - visual and anal.
The owners cannot imagine life without a family, children and a cozy home. They care about the upbringing of the new generation better than anyone else, passing on to them the eternal family values, traditions, and experience. The best mothers, faithful wives and the most devoted and caring husbands and fathers.
Loneliness for the owner of the anal vector lies in the absence of a family and children. Realized in work, the best teacher or master of his craft with golden hands, a leader in production or a professor - he will miss the most important thing: his home, where he is expected. He can get used to it, people of this kind are very patient. But will he be happy?
I do not like loneliness, give me happiness
“I do not like loneliness, it does not allow me to be happy. I don’t like to be alone, I don’t like it when no one calls, no one to talk to, no one to tell how bad I am. I don't like to feel unnecessary. I really want a real relationship, but they are not. And I do not like myself because they are not. From this, a terrible apathy, melancholy covers. I guess I’m not like that. What is wrong with me? "
This is the feeling of loneliness in people with. It endows a person with figurative intelligence. These are people of beauty, creativity, compassion. It is for them that love is the highest value. Sensitive and gentle, they are fighters for peace and goodness, for the value of human life, for everything reasonable and eternal. This visual person is crying bitterly at the sight of someone else's pain, he feels sorry for everyone, he is ready to help and feel sorry for everyone who feels bad. Loneliness is contraindicated for him, he does not know what to do with it.
Visitors developed in their properties do not feel the state of loneliness, because there are so many unhappy people around who need help, even just a kind look, participation and attention. They realize themselves.
Otherwise, a person becomes whiny, hysterical, emotionally dependent on a partner, turning both his life and his own into an eternal drama with tears, hysterics and reproaches: “You don’t love me!”
The loneliness of the best woman in the world
Both of these vectors - visual and anal - together endow a person with all their virtues. Such women are the best faithful wives and caring mothers.
If everything were so simple in life, you would not have to overcome this difficult state of loneliness. What prevents them from experiencing this happiness? Lack of maternal love in childhood can lead such women to self-doubt, resentment, which are then transferred to the partner.
The anal vector gives a person an excellent memory. But memory, unfortunately, does not separate what to remember and what not. A realized person remembers the necessary and important information, an insufficiently realized person remembers grievances, pain and all bad experiences, unconsciously attracting loneliness.
Having once failed in a relationship, a woman will be afraid of new ones, carrying old pain and resentment in herself. Without even realizing that this will be the reason for her inability to maintain the relationship. She will want to get married, but be afraid to trust the man. Loneliness will become her both protection and prison.
Loneliness is insulting and scary
If the fear of losing what is is added to the offense, the woman becomes dependent on her partner, constantly demanding from him proof of love and fidelity. And having lost a relationship, he will grab anyone who will pay attention, just not to be alone. For her, overcoming loneliness is about getting married as soon as possible, preferably for love. But there are always the wrong ones, and this is no accident.
Self-doubt, bad experience, resentment against men deprive a naturally obedient woman of any ability to be bright, proactive, interesting. Clever and beautiful, caring and loving, she turns into a gray, submissive mouse. And this is only part of the reasons why women endure loneliness all their lives.
At the same time, we, women, do not even know our beloved - who he is, what his desires are, what he is capable of, and what he never had. We choose blindly, and then demand the impossible, missing the important, not knowing how to create emotional connections, to love. Although visual people are capable of this like no other.
Where does loneliness begin and where does deliverance lie
Loneliness begins with a misunderstanding of one's natural task, the lack of realization of the inherent properties. Deliverance begins from the moment you realize this secret. Training System-Vector Psychology Yuri Burlan accurately reveals the causes and consequences of bad conditions in each vector. Systems thinking becomes a life-changing tool for overcoming loneliness.
What a person gets as a result:
inner state of joy;
new meetings, novels and true love;
self-confidence and confidence in the future;
building relationships with loved ones, relatives, children;
restoration of sexuality, femininity;
balance in emotions, attention from the opposite sex;
a real serious relationship for creating a family.
The effectiveness of Yuri Burlan's training has been confirmed. Why cry, feeling lonely, and rush into the arms of just someone? There is an opportunity to really find yourself, become interesting, bright, learn to love and inspire a man to feel in return.
Getting to the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan, people begin to get results. The path away from unloved loneliness begins with a decision to change everything.
The article was written based on the materials of the training " System-vector psychology»
Good day, dear readers. Perhaps among your acquaintances there are people who love loneliness. In this article, we will talk about whether this condition is normal or whether a person cannot survive without communication.
Who likes solitude
If the phrase "I love being alone" is familiar to you, then most likely you belong to one of the categories of people susceptible to this condition.
- People with abstract thinking.
- An introvert who does not like noisy companies, loud sound.
- A sociophobe who is intimidated by communication with other people.
- A person with a large number of complexes, with a very low self-esteem. It is easier for him to be alone with his thoughts than to go out in public and listen to unflattering words addressed to him.
- A man or woman with a physical disability or health problem. More often forced to be alone.
- A person tired of the monotony of life, its everyday life. There is a need to change the established harmony.
- Women who spend the whole day with children listen to their cries and disagreements.
- Couples also feel the need for privacy. If people love each other, this does not mean that they should not have personal space.
I, like many of you, sometimes want to be alone with myself, with my thoughts. This is necessary in order to rethink my life, to determine the values, to understand whether I am doing everything right. Like any married woman, I sometimes want to stay in silence, go about my business, devote time only to myself, and not to my husband or child.
Is it ok or not
Psychology distinguishes a number of people who need silence, complete solitude. Only when they are alone with their thoughts do they receive complete satisfaction of the senses, they feel happy. This does not mean that such people are mentally ill.
A person who loves loneliness is aimed at knowing himself. In most cases, he chooses professions in which the manifestation of mental abilities is necessary, and there is also the opportunity to be alone. Such people become mathematicians, writers, musicians, philosophers.
It is normal when a person is dominated by abstract thinking, has a keen ear, he does not value material well-being. It is important for him to focus on his ideas, fantasies, dreams and thoughts. This cannot be done in the presence of other people. That is why it is so important for him to retire.
Possible cons of being alone
Why do people have different attitudes towards privacy?
The thing is that we are all different. Some are more emotional, it is important for them to communicate with other people. Such people are very afraid of possible loneliness. There are also such individuals who cannot show emotions, are completely absorbed in their inner experiences.
If a person who wants to be alone most of their time fails to make full use of abstract thinking, they may become depressed. The realization will come that no one needs him, that he is not capable of fulfilling the goal assigned from above.
If loneliness begins to be pathological, a person completely withdraws, avoids communication with other people, spends day and night in solitude. In such a situation, serious consequences for the body can arise, affecting psychological health:
- apathy, depression;
- complete despair;
- feeling of meaninglessness;
- insomnia or a constant urge not to wake up;
Sometimes loneliness provides a chance for salvation. If he is not able to use it correctly, then over time, the satisfaction that he received from solitude will turn into torment, internal contradictions will arise. In such cases, in order to bring him back to life, you often have to seek help from a specialist.
When a person who loves to constantly be alone with himself, to dream, notice the appearance of alarming symptoms, he must take action to prevent the development of consequences. The most correct thing in this situation will be to transfer your mental potential to hard work associated with intellectual activity. Now it is important to focus on some business, to achieve some success, to feel your importance in this world.
- There is an opinion that if a guy loves loneliness, then he is at the stage of maturation, matures as an independent, independent person. This is a normal process.
- It is important to understand that people, opening up in relationships, are able to know themselves and others, to feel real happiness.
- The desire to be alone can be caused by bad experiences in relationships with the opposite sex. But do not dwell on loneliness, so you can put an end to the creation of a future family.
- Isolation from other people contributes to the loss of social skills.
- If you enjoy spending time in silence, that's fine, but don't get too carried away with loneliness. Look out the window, see what a wonderful world surrounds you. Pay attention to the birdsong, the bright rays of the sun. Solitude is great for thinking, pondering some tasks, but do not forget that life is passing by. You run the risk of not having time to learn and achieve a lot.
Now you know what a person who loves loneliness is like. It is important that he does not turn his life into such a state on a permanent basis. Despite your love of solitude, you need to find time to communicate with friends, relatives, and create romantic relationships. It is important to continue to continue normal social activity.
Hello dear friends! Today I decided to talk not about travel or remote work, but about deep personal preferences. For they not only shape the character and way of life, but also influence my environment in a certain way. You understand that we receive in response only what we broadcast.
It so happened that since childhood I was fascinated by self-employment: I was constantly looking and finding. Either I read new books, then I glued railway cars out of paper, or I simply could look at photographs in old family albums for a long time. It would seem - a typical introvert!
Annette, outwardly I often behave like a person who is desperately looking for communication and can easily find a common language with a person of any social stratum. Probably, this quality I have from my father. He was also a distinguished diplomat and knew how to speak with people in their languages. However, often after such communication, especially if it is just for fun, I feel tired. This happens especially often during my solo travels. Funny, huh ??? Rest from rest.
Solo on a motorcycle in the foothills of the Himalayas
It's just that, as I noticed, communication with travelers in hostels, buses or just on the street is limited to the standard set: “where are you going”, “where are you from”, “wow, Kazakhstan ... kapets. And this is where in general ”,“ how are you ”... And more often than not, such dialogues are just a waste of time and energy. Only occasionally it happens when a search begins in them and some idea is born. Therefore, I prefer to enter into such dialogues as little as possible, however, I always answer inquisitive and interesting questions with enthusiasm.
After leaving the offices, mine. And for a calm and productive work, I need silence. In hostels, this can be stressful, so I try to work during the day, when most of the travelers wander around the sights, freeing up Internet resources and granting me silence. Alas, most of those who wander with backpacks are office workers on vacation and my unwillingness to wander around for hours on duty sometimes puzzles them.
And for self-development, it is useful to be alone with yourself. People often run away from themselves. They are tormented by their own demons and they desperately need vaccinations from these demons. Hence - the craving for stupid parties, alcohol, drugs, and other dope. Unity is an amazing medicine, in which, like nowhere else, you can create: write articles for a blog, implement projects, compose music. Self-employment works wonders, although, of course, it can be boring at times. However, when you find resources in yourself, even entertainments become unnecessary.
In addition, desperate attempts to marry or get married in search of objective happiness is the same illusion. And the stronger this desire, the more unhappy today and in the future a person. It is one thing when it is dictated by a deep inner need and meaningfulness of the decision (read: personal happiness), it is another thing when it’s another wish, from the category “it should be”.
Favorite landscapes - mountains
I think you have heard common phrases many times about illusory debts, such as "did not serve, not a man", "give birth to children", "make a woman / man happy", "build a house for a nest" or look for a nurse for the sake of "a glass of water in old age ". Unfortunately, such a position of responsibility imposed by society only breeds misfortune and disappointment. For a person puts his deep needs on the altar of social values \u200b\u200band hunches up to old age for the sake of someone's whims. Again, I emphasize: if your deepest need and happiness is in your family and children, this paragraph is not about you. Childfree and any other poster fraternities have nothing to do with it either.
I love being alone
But back to loneliness. As a particularly brutal experience, I went through twice. This is where inner personal demons are especially visible. The feeling that you are exposing them to the rays of the inner sun, in the light of which they writhe and scatter through the dark closets. Something similar happens during solo travel. And all the introverted visits bring me a lot of benefits. I feel like a beekeeper who is finally able to collect wonderful nectar, no matter how hard it costs me.
At such moments, an understanding of oneself arises: sincerity and honesty in relation to oneself are automatically projected onto relationships with other people. It is as if you take out the mined diamonds from your own depths, and the light refracted in them suddenly begins to illuminate the space.
Motorcycle travel in Sri Lanka
However, this does not stop me from hanging out at trance parties or even suddenly becoming the soul of some company. This is probably why I call my introversion extroverted. It’s very easy to go outside at such times.
Afterword
Probably, it is these character traits that have formed the circle of my interests (or vice versa?). , love of nature, solo travel, literature, psychology. All this for me is like the work of a geologist who, thanks to his research, goes deep into the depths and finally discovers the much-desired gold.
Instead of a point and a traditional farewell, I will ask a question. I wonder if there are any of my readers who feel the same way? Please write down in the comments?
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